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My name is Cheryl Schnabolk, and I am a licensed clinical social worker. I have a somewhat unique approach to psychotherapy. I employ traditional aspects of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) along with a Solution Focused approach, (SFT), coupled with a strength based approach, and employ a person centered ideology. My "client's" are viewed as partners. Together, we embark on a journey towards meeting healthy goals, establishing coping skills, developing and maintaining boundaries, all of which support a happy and healthy lifestyle. This journey includes compassion, encouragement, hard work, homework (yes, therapy is work that happens outside of the office), exposure, exploration, and comfort.
This blog will highlight some of the frequently asked questions, challenges, and successes of my partners. Please feel free to email firstname.lastname@example.org with specific questions and issues that will be addressed right here. I look forward to hearing from you!
Whose voice do you hear?
I can't go to that party.... what will THEY think?
I can't take the day off, he will think......
I want to ask her out, but SHE would think ....
If I ask for that accommodation THEY will think....
I want my friend to go with me, but if I ask SHE will think....
THEY all thought I was so weird....
I want to introduce myself to the neighbor but THEY will think I am...
Who are THEY. Who is SHE? Who is HE?
Why do they know better? Why does their opinion carry more weight than yours?
If THEY/HE/SHE think something... does that make it true? more powerful? valid?
What if they are wrong?
Creating healthy boundaries can repair, enhance, maintain, and stabilize a relationship, keep you emotionally safe, and set the tone of your professional and personal relationships. When client's come in with concerns within their interpersonal professional and personal relationships the first thing we explore are boundaries. There are many different types of boundaries:
Physical - referring to personal space and touch.
Intellectual - referring to thoughts and ideas
Emotional - referring to feelings
Sexual - referring to the physical, emotional, and intellectual aspects of sexuality
Material - referring to money and possessions
Time - how a person uses their time
Are these boundaries met within your personal and professional life? Are you cognizant of respecting the boundaries of those in your life? Looking at the list above, are you respecting your own boundaries?
If not - what message are you sending to those around you?